10 Red Flags Your Relationship Is Going Downhill

When she dumped Kevin, it was like a kick in the head for him. He needed days to come around and realize what happened. Even then it was an absolute mystery to him what caused the break up. It will take months for him to finally get a clue to the reasons.

Had he seen it coming? Well, he said no. But when I dug a little deeper, it became apparent that he actually had noticed unusual things in his relationship. He just dismissed them as meaningless. He never would have guessed that they could lead to a break up.

Apparently they were anything but meaningless.

If he would have given them some attention, he may have been able to do something to prevent the forthcoming events. He could have talked to his girlfriend, uncovered the problem and tried to do something to fix it before it was too late. If there is no communication, nothing will ever change.

The reasons why two people in a relationship drift apart are numerous. But I believe that if you spot the early signs, there is a very good possibility to get back on track again.

Why didn’t Kevin see it coming? Why didn’t he react upon the “unusual” things he noticed?

I believe that he knew what was about to happen, but it is very typical in such situations to simply refuse to believe that something is wrong. We would never believe that our partner, who was on our side for so long, would actually leave us. This appears so unreal.

Denial seems to be a good way of handling the problem. Of course, this is only self-deception.

Unfortunately, many simply do not know the early signs, the red flags, that something is going very wrong in their relationship.

Why should you pay attention to the red flags?

After a relationship break up, all we think about is “if I’d only knew earlier, I could have done something”. But what would you have done?

When recovering from a break up or divorce you have to go through the four phases. What we often do not realize, is that the one who actually breaks up has to go through these phases as well, only they are doing it while you are still together. S/He has to do so, otherwise leaving would not be possible.

So, if you spot the signs in the early phases, you might still be able to prevent the fatal outcome.

How can you avert a potential break up or divorce?

Certainly by talking to the partner, uncovering the origin of the discontent and trying to eliminate the problems. Reminding your partner of the love you had for each other by revitalizing special moments you had together is also very important.

If everything fails, you have at least had the opportunity then to prepare yourself, and you are not being hit out of the blue.

Let’s take a look at the signs.




Here they are, the 10 big red flags that your relationship is going downhill:

1. A lack of communication

A lack of communication is usually the first bad sign in a relationship, but also one of the earliest. If you are discontent with your partnership, cutting back conversation is the first step of an emotional retreat.

Does your partner avoid a longer conversation? Check out why.

2. A Change in behavior

Does your partner act differently lately? You partner was always a role model in punctuality, they aren’t any more. S/He is often late, without giving an explanation and might get aggressive when insisting.

Or s/he changes routines, that were a matter of course for years in your relationship, overnight.

Is there also a decrease in intimacy? No more of the cuddling and kissing you s/he used to do? Sex happens much less often?

These are just examples of a change in behavior to demonstrate what I mean. For you, it’s important to observe these changes, should they appear, and take them as a warning sign that something just might not be ok.

3. Avoidance of talking about the future

You used to talk about future vacations to foreign countries you have always planned to visit. You dreamed together of the cozy house, with the white picket fences, watching your children play in the front.

Take a look now if your partner refuses such thoughts or simply changes the subject.

That might be a red flag that something is going on.

4. Decisions are made alone

You used to always discuss everything regarding important decisions in your life, be it your life as a couple or as an individual. Now you find your partner is suddenly making very important decisions on their own, just presenting you the facts.

This could be seen as the first steps towards independence for your partner.

5. Unusual activities alone

You notice an unusual accumulation of activities your partner is doing alone. This is especially true for men.

Is your partner meeting old friends they haven’t seen in years? Working late? Discovering new places without you?

This is not always an indication of infidelity; it can also be spreading their wings for independence: the first steps into a new life (phase 3).

6. Hidden phone-calls

This is a classic one.

Do you catch your partner taking hidden phone-calls more often? The phone is ringing and s/he takes it somewhere else without answering it first? What does s/he hide?

This could be infidelity or just (as in 5.) looking for more freedom.

Be careful.

7. New circle of friends

Suddenly there are a bunch of new friends appearing out of the blue. They are very important to her/him.

Most of the new activities without you are now with them, shutting you out.

S/He is spending less and less time with you.

8. Not able to be reached

In the past, there was never a problem reaching your partner, be it at work or in private. They were always answering the phone or cellular.

Now s/he rarely answers the phone, and doesn’t call you back any more. Text messages are also answered late, if at all.

Another indication of seeking independency.

9. Makes unusual confessions

There were issues in your mutual past, which were never addressed before. Now they are not only a subject of discussion, they often lead to disputes.

“I never liked your mother, father, friends, outfit, political view, nose, etc.” are just some examples for sudden confessions of dislike and disagreement.

This is a very serious indication and should not be taken lightly.

10. Avoidance of long and intimate eye-contact

This is another serious red flag, which unfortunately often manifests when it is already too late.

Your partner cannot look you in the eye, because they have either noticed that they don’t love you any more, or because of guilt. They may have already separated her/himself emotionally, and is considering the next step.

Be careful!

If you notice only a few of these red flags in your partnership don’t panic! Going on a witch-hunt now is the worst you could do. A few of these signs doesn’t have to mean anything, if they appear every once in a while.

Just talk to your partner about it, without pushing the panic button.

Be aware of jealousy, that green-eyed monster.



Jealousy is one of the most negative emotions there is. Never accuse your partner of something without proof, you can create irreversible damage.

If you notice more than a few red flags at once, if not all of them, then heads up, something‘s going on.

As mentioned, communication and a recollection of your initial relationship virtues is a vital step in finding a way back together again.

If Kevin wouldn’t have shut his eyes to the facts, he might still be in a relationship.

Always walk through life with trust, but keep your eyes wide open.

I know you will now.

Camille Grammer’s Soft Porn Past Exposed

Camille Grammer has been in the news quite a bit of late with her divorce from actor Kelsey Grammer, and her attempt to leave ‘Real Housewives,’ because she reportedly thinks she is being badly portrayed. Well if she thinks the reality show was ruining her image, this latest bit of news is really gonna sink her reputation. As it turns out, not only did she pose nude in Playboy as Camille Donatacci, but her ‘Real Housewives’ scorned castmates have sent around stills and descriptions of two mid-90s soft-core porn flicks Camille did, aptly titled “The Morally Corrupt Camille Donatacci Grammer.” The Real Housewives women allegedly started e-mailing the links to one another writing snarky comments,” and Life & Style conveniently got a hold of the emails. Apparently Camille bared all in two erotic mid-’90s movies–Marilyn Chambers’ Bedtime Stories and The Naked Detective (circled in photo right). Is this the real reason Camille wants to leave Real Housewives, and is it really a secret that she did these films?

Couple arrested after drunken sex in stolen car in service station

Police arrested the couple in the Northern Territory, Australia, service station after the couple refused to stop having sex when asked.

Police said the couple were clearly fornicating.

Police realised they were drunk and tested the driver, who was over the limit.

The driver was charged with unlawful use of a motor vehicle, high range drunk driving and unlicensed driving.

Both occupants were charged with indecent behaviour in a public place.

The 7 Deadly Sins of Dating

Don't say that you weren't warned! Nothing can kill a budding relationship faster than one of the seven dating mistakes below.

1. Rushing into Sex

There isn't a universal right time to become intimate with a new partner, however, if you have sex before a man has had a chance to get to know you, then you risk him placing you in the "fling" category and losing interest. A man has to invest and appreciate your other qualities beyond the physical for him to want to make you his girlfriend. So don't be afraid to take your time and make him wait until it feels right for you; the "three date rule" is a myth!

2. Opening Up Too Fast

Likewise, it isn't smart to rush in and tell him all of your sad childhood stories. Although it's natural to want to speed up the bonding process, you have to pace the amount of information you share. You don't want to scare him offwith TMI or convince him that you're a high-drama mamma.

3. Faking Orgasms

Faking is a like a harmless, little white lie, right? No! In the long run, you are actually doing both of yourselves a huge disservice by allowing him to think that his moves are . . . To read the rest of the story click here or click the image below.

Guys - You Can Get Away With Having an Affair

Tiger Woods, Mark “the Luv Guv” Sanford, Jon Gosselin…All three of these geniuses were busted last year with their three wood in the wrong bunker. While the fact that they had affairs wasn’t shocking, the stupidity with which they conducted them was: Woods tried to bed every fame-whore he laid eyes on; Sanford barely covered his tracks when he went AWOL from South Carolina to join his lady love in Argentina; and Gosselin cavorted with a bevy of bimbos in front of the reality TV cameras that follow him everywhere.

But famous men aren’t the only cheaters. According to a recent MSNBC poll, one in five people in a monogamous relationship has a side piece—and that figure includes women. Yet you almost never read about female betrayal in newspapers and tabloids. Why? Because we’re better at hiding it. Sure, it may be a stereotype to say women are naturally sneakier or more cautious than men. But both of those things just may be true.

So if you’re itching for a fling, you should take a few tips from the ladies. To help your cause, we contacted the most adulterous women we know—most of whom have never been called on their indiscretions—and pumped them for their best advice on stepping out on a mate. Study up!



1. MAKE YOUR GIRL A GUY.

News flash: Every woman looks at her man’s cell phone log when the opportunity arises. The same goes for sideways glances at your phone when a new text arrives. Is it your friend Joe commenting on the Cubs game? Or is it that whore in your office you’ve been boning—I knew it, you filthy pig!

If it is, in fact, that whore in your office, by no means should she be in your phone under her real name—or a female name at all. “A little gender swap has saved my ass numerous times,” says Jessica*, a 29-year-old benefits coordinator. “For a while I was boning a guy named Jake, who was in my phone as ‘Jackie,’ and this other guy Mark, whom I entered as ‘Marcy.’ ” When her boyfriend asked who this ‘Jackie’ chick was that was texting her all the time, Jess simply said it was a friend she’d reconnected with through Facebook. “Then, for effect, I rolled my eyes and complained about how needy she was,” Jessica says.

Whatever name you choose, just be sure to adjust the settings on your phone regarding incoming texts. Some, like the iPhone, show not only the texter’s name but the message as soon as it arrives. (Doesn’t happen on the BlackBerry, but you should password-protect that thing just in case.) If she sees a message from “Steve” that reads “I want you inside me,” you could have some ’splainin’ to do.

2. HACKPROOF YOUR LIFE.

To read the rest of the tips click here or click the image below



For more stories, pictures and gossip about sex, relationships and about your favorite celebrities visit us at http://www.celebrityfreaks.com/